Are you feeling a little low?
Are your energy levels not where they should be?
Has the onset of spring not lifted your spirits?
Are you unable to focus on anything for very long?
Are you present at the dinner table, but not really ‘there’?
Are you irritable?
Are your personal relationships suffering?
Are you sleeping badly?
Are you waking up in the morning, but not feeling refreshed?
Has your sex life gone out the window?
Are you drinking too much?
Are you eating rubbish food?
Are you not feeling that optimistic about the future?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. I’ve been talking to a lot of friends and colleagues recently, and the above things keep coming up in conversation. I think there’s something going on here.
Uncertain times lie ahead. We’re dealing with Brexit, and now there’s a looming general election – but it’s not just external things – it’s the way we’re living our lives. We’re not taking care of ourselves.
We’re ‘always on’. 75% of UK adults sleep with their phone next to the bed. It’s the first thing we look at in the morning (it’s probably your alarm clock!) and the last thing we look at before going to sleep. It’s not a Smartphone. It’s a Stupidphone.
It’s having to deal with transportation – grumpy, inconsiderate people on trains and tubes, ‘idiots’ on the road. We turn up to work already irritated! Then we’re at work, with the associated pressures and competitiveness there.
A common complaint:
“I’m drained by the time I leave work in the evening. And then I’ve got the commute home.”
And then there’s the external factors that all contribute. That turns up the heat even further!
If there wasn’t already uncertainty with Brexit, this week’s snap election announcement didn’t do much to make people feel better about the stability of the UK economy. And it’s clear that many are feeling the pressure of the uncertainty, the insecurity.
This week, I’ve had many conversations with people about what’s going on, but 2 of them stick out to me.
On Tuesday, right after I finished a client training session on stress, one of the trainees came and spoke to me. She is originally from Poland and is extremely worried that she and her husband will not be able to stay in the UK as they’re not UK nationals, although their 10-year-old child is.
She didn’t know who to speak to about this and she’s been feeling stressed since the EU Referendum last June. Next week, she’ll have been suffering from 10 months of “Brexit-associated stress”, as she calls it. Her husband, a normally happy-go-lucky type, was diagnosed with depression just after Christmas. Their future is uncertain.
She’s not alone.
Just today, a close friend of mine heard through the office grapevine that his company will be downsizing as after the Brexit vote, they experienced a significant reduction of new clients into the business; and the company is worried that the election announcement will further increase the instability. He’s worried he’ll be one of the people who won’t have a job come June.
There is so much cause for concern at present. People are suffering from stress, anxiety and depression – and many aren’t talking about it.
You’ve got no control over whether you’ll be forced to leave the country, no control over how Brexit will impact the state of the UK, and little to no control over whether you lose your job.
For many people, things seem quite dire, and they’re feeling it. Who can blame them?
This sense of having no control over what’s going to happen affects a lot of people deeply. It causes stress and anxiety – and those feelings aren’t going anywhere.
